Best 10 ways to have your EX Girlfriend Back. (Win Her Back!)
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1.Reconnect
with a text: Sometimes absence makes the heart grow fonder—but other times, it
causes that heart to seek out another man. Bottom line: Don’t call first. “Try
sending a sweet text, not one that will make her think you’re looking for a
booty call,” says dating expert Julie Spira. “Think about something that you
shared together that might warm her heart.” Example: Was listening to the radio
and heard that Coldplay song. Brought back memories of the concert together.
Hope you’re doing great. If she responds, she may be open to rekindling the
spark. And if she responds with an "Ew, WTF," proceed to step two.
2.
Take it slow. You romanced her once already, but that doesn’t mean you get to
go from zero to 60 without even getting behind the wheel. So propose getting
together—not moving in together. Says Seattle-resident Adria, who took her ex
back after a nasty breakup: “He apologized out of the blue after three months
of no contact and was very respectful of me. He wasn't pushy about getting back
together, which would have been a red flag in my eyes.”
3.
Call her, maybe: So far, so good? Great. Suggest a casual date by phone. No texts.
No emails. Let her hear your voice and register some sincere effort on your
part. “See if she’d like to join you at an art gallery opening, see a movie, or
a hike on a sunny day,” says Spira. “It will give you the chance to get
together in a relaxed environment, without too much pressure.” But remember,
accepting your invite is just that—and not a sure sign she wants to get back
together. If she turns you down, give her space. “Don’t beg, cry, or stalk
her,” Spira says. “If it’s meant to be, she’ll come around on her own
time-table.
4.
Tell her you miss her: If she accepts your date invite, ease in. Ask what she’s
been up to, how work is going, if her dog is still peeing on the couch—whatever.
Then, if the date is going well and she seems to be warming up (you know, read
the signs) say you want her back. Vulnerability on your part might improve your
odds of a second chance; don’t just rip the Band-Aids off every old wound.
“Open your heart and see how she reacts,” Spira says. “You don’t need to talk
about everything that went wrong in the relationship. She knows, you know—keep
the conversation light.”
5.
Own up: If she seems open, and you want to step up for another at-bat,
acknowledge your shortcomings. “If you did something hurtful, make a real
apology,” Frances says. “It might be wise to see a therapist to clarify what
you did and why, and how best to sort of the problem.” Then, no matter what she
did, you need to take responsibility for you—and change. If you weren’t willing
to extend an effort to get to know her friends before, tell her you’d be game
for drinks as a group. (Yeah, that’s right. Swallow your pride.)
6.
Avoid rehashing the past: After you’ve acknowledged the problem, look ahead.
“Don’t go down memory lane and hash out all the things you thought were wrong
with the relationship,” Spira says. Focus on the positive qualities that
brought you together in the first place, like your crazy sense of humor, or the
way your laid-back personality complements her type-A tendencies.
7.
Use the friend group: Even though you might want a new beginning, you should
still tap back into those old loving feelings. An easy way to recreate happy
times is to meet up in a safe, familiar environment like an outing with your
mutual friend group. Just make sure you can easily break off from the pack to
talk. Alisha, from San Antonio, TX, had an ex take that approach—and it worked.
“We were telling stories, joking and laughing together. It was comfortable,
fun. Then my ex pulled me aside and asked me if we could give things another
try. We talked a lot about our futures, and I felt things could really work.”
8.
Don’t compare notes: Look, forget that relationship hiatus even existed. You
both up and went on with your lives while you were apart—but that doesn’t mean
you need to talk about what went down. “She doesn’t need to hear about the bad
dates you went on,” says Spira,“ or about your conquests either.” Would you
want to hear about the guys who took your place? Didn’t think so.
9.
Tap into your romantic side: While chivalrous acts aren’t the most important
thing, they are important. Chocolates, cards and flowers (sent to her office so
all her co-workers can get green with envy) are time-honored clichés for a
reason: They kind of work. But here’s how to make it a legit, not cheesy,
gesture: “Write a love letter,” says Frances. “Tell her why you love her and
what it is about her that makes her completely special. It’s OK to rip off
lyrics or poetry. Send the letter with flowers. Good, old-fashioned courtship
works.”
10.
Buy a ring: Relax. This advice isn’t for everyone, obviously. But if you’re
absolutely positive about this girl, the ultimate bold move has had
unparalleled success, says Frances. “Most of the time, the split is about
commitment issues, so you’ve got to be coming back with terms she’ll be happy
with.” And even if you’re not ready for the ring? You can learn something here:
You have got to step it up and have a plan for the relationship. Period. No
woman will rekindle a romance that’s not moving her forward…at least a little
bit
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